One of the cornerstones of Game is to kill the nice guy inside you. Now I'm not a proponent of becoming a complete asshole and disrespecting women, but one of the top reasons why certain guys continue to strike out is that they misconstrue what women mean when they say, "I just want a nice guy."
First off, don't believe what women tell you because they will tell you some nonsense and you'll sit by and watch as they go after the opposite of the dude they tell you they like. Few woman are going to say "I want a guy that can knock the pictures off the wall when we have sex, keeps me on my toes by being unpredictable, and helps me escape from the mundane existence I currently lead." They're going to give that bs answer, "I want a nice guy that treats me right", which may be partially true but can lead you down the road to solo Blockbuster nights, movie night with your parents, or cuddle parties. Here's a quick rundown of why being a nice guy will throw a monkey wrench in your game and why being a bad boy trumps being a nice guy:
First off, don't believe what women tell you because they will tell you some nonsense and you'll sit by and watch as they go after the opposite of the dude they tell you they like. Few woman are going to say "I want a guy that can knock the pictures off the wall when we have sex, keeps me on my toes by being unpredictable, and helps me escape from the mundane existence I currently lead." They're going to give that bs answer, "I want a nice guy that treats me right", which may be partially true but can lead you down the road to solo Blockbuster nights, movie night with your parents, or cuddle parties. Here's a quick rundown of why being a nice guy will throw a monkey wrench in your game and why being a bad boy trumps being a nice guy:
Nice Guys Are Average
Women say one thing and mean the other. Women may say they want a nice guy, but that doesn't mean that they just want a nice guy. Women like men with a little edge to them. Some women will disagree, but most of the top notch females that are high on the desirability list that I know don't want some average nice guy smiles a lot, is overly agreeable, and has no edge to him. You don't necessairly need to be a convict, Hell's Angel, or MMA guy, but if your style is vanilla you won't be tasting her ice cream anytime soon. Why would a woman want someone who's average? Think about that the next time you're at The Gap buying a pair of Chinos or watching that lame TV show that everyone watches. Yeah, you're average so switch the style up.
Bad Boys Are More Confident Than Nice Guys
The nice guy kills things by acting entirely too supplicative and cow towing to a woman's every desire. This may seem like a great thing on the surface, but it will kill your game. Bad boys reek of confidence because they tend to give off an "I don't give a f@#$ vibe" that women are attracted to. Nice guys follow societal rules and think inside the box. A bad boy lives by his own rules and is confident that things will work out. They don't desire the approval of women like the nice guy does, and that is a turn on to women. The bad boy knows there are tons of women out there at his disposable, while the nice guy is a sucker for love and becomes victim of oneitis, thinking that some average girl he met with a nice figure and cute smile is the only one for him and the greatest thing since sliced bread.
Bad Boys Are More Exciting Than Nice Guys
Nice guys are mad predictable and women desire unpredictability and excitement. Why is a woman going to trip over you if you're on that flowers, dinner, and a movie vibe? Why is a woman going to dig you if you stick to the script? A bad boy does things the regular guy doesn't, takes her places she's never been, and exposes her to things she's not familiar with. Nice guys win in cheesy romantic comedies that Hollywood shoves down our throughts, but that mess is just an illuision and the real world operates differently.
Bad Boys Are More of a Challenge, and Women Love a Challenge
Bad Boys Are More of a Challenge, and Women Love a Challenge
They love the bad boy, but knows that in the long term he won't be a suitable husband, so in their heads they feel they can change him. While the nice guy does everything a woman wants, listens to her, and doesn't rock the boat, the bad boy is the exact opposite. Women see the bad boy as a makeover project at times, and will spend their time trying to smooth out the rough edges. Women love makeovers, and trying to tame a bad boy is the ultimate makeover. Now being a badboy might not work as well on women in their late 20 and early 30's because that biological clock is ticking, but at that point you can just go after younger women or refine your bad boy persona to be more age appropriate. That's on you.
Bad Boys Aren't Deceptive Like Nice Guys
Nice guys appear nice on the surface, but in reality they are the biggest snakes because they're only acting nice because they seek a woman's approval and eventually their sexual companionship. Women can see right throught this, so they respect the bad boy more because he tends to let his intentions be known from the jump, instead of trying to be all friendly, beating around the bush in the hopes that the friendship will turn to romance. That's why nice guys routinely get stuck in the friend zone because they start off being entirely too nice and not giving off a sexual vibe, and then when they try to make their move the woman has already dismissed the possibility of anything sexual between them. Nice guys think they can hop from the friend zone to the bedroom, but only a select few have that ability.
There are several more reasons,with science to back them up, but this is a blog and not a book so I'll keep it brief. Now being a bad boy is great, but if you come across as a fake bad boy then that's just as bad as being the nice guy. Your image must be congruent with your actions, so don't try to roll up in a Harley with a leather jacket and then sound like Steve Urkel while you discuss your day as as insurance salesman or some other non-bad boy type gig. The ultimate goal is to be a hybrid bad boy/nice guy, which is irresistable and something I'll delve into at a later time.
The world is yours.....
There are several more reasons,with science to back them up, but this is a blog and not a book so I'll keep it brief. Now being a bad boy is great, but if you come across as a fake bad boy then that's just as bad as being the nice guy. Your image must be congruent with your actions, so don't try to roll up in a Harley with a leather jacket and then sound like Steve Urkel while you discuss your day as as insurance salesman or some other non-bad boy type gig. The ultimate goal is to be a hybrid bad boy/nice guy, which is irresistable and something I'll delve into at a later time.
The world is yours.....
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